Ep.18/ Ada Connor (DRAFT)
Ada Connor is a sweet, soft, cutie patootie who is also my friend, and we got to talking about softness and lesbianism. Which is to say, we spoke about Love. Which is to say, we also spoke about being cooked and eaten in a loving, romantic, gay way, not a Hannibalesque superior, manly, gay way. Makes sense? Have a listen to find out.
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Ada Connor (she/her) is a lesbian trans woman, ex-philosopher, drummer, writer with a day job, and has very good taste in art. Read her reflections on Moving into a More Transfeminine Space. We spoke about love, pleasure, and cannibalism, amongst other things!
On Lesbian as a Gender, check out this academic tumblr analysis.
On soft, background music to play while you’re considering love, check out Ada’s mixtapes or Jogging House .
Read Ada’s thesis here! And consider reading up on bell hooks and Val Plumwood if you’re interested in more on Love as the opposite of abuse.
On willingness and an ‘enthusiastic maybe’, check out the wonderful Nagoski podcast “Come As You Are” as well as this TedX talk on mindful sex.
It was Bi Visibility Day just before the episode, so check out Bi+ Pride Victoria if you’re local, they have great resources and events. I was on “Big Bi Questions” podcast a while ago, talking about being a Greedy bisexual.
On Cannibalism, we mentioned Why are people into that?! pod (Tina Horn), and outside of our convo - She Loves to Cook, and She Loves to Eat (more food focused, but very lesbian and cute) and I guess you could also check out Ao3, why not? (75,000 tags for cannibalism, so you’re not alone if you’re into it). Ada recommends Monique Wittig’s The Lesbian Body. Of course, you can also check out Hannibal Lector (the TV show, v gay, cult following, made for tumblr), or have a think about Competence Kink.
If you’re looking for local scents, check out Lore, they’re lovely. Thinking about body odour change on hormones, the dolls are discussing it!
Join a book club, or even better a queer book club, or EVEN BETTER A TRANS BOOKCLUB! Then go see Teenage Sex and Death At Camp Miasma, because book clubs can watch films too. Our one is actually playing Heaven Will Be Mine, a horny, trans, gay visual novel.
Check out Ada’s other works here on tumblr too. I’ve taken the liberty of sharing one of her poems here below!
Ep.18/
Ada Connor
My old facebook group, a couple of genders ago! circa 2017-2019